It's our mission to incite to filial love where parents are honored, appreciated and taken cared of by their children, and are filled with peace of mind and joy while aging.
We Work to Ensure the Future We All Envision for Our Parents and Ourselves.
Good Childing is a value-based online teaching and a free in-home filial behavior learning center focusing on the practice of doing good to parents.
WHO WE ARE
We are filial children and children-in-law, givers to parents. Do good to parents, honor parents, practice filial piety. We value "Childing the person parenting you.” We hope that you will find ideas for quiet reflection and contemplation. We hope you are inspired for ways of thinking, being and doing that you would like to adopt in your parent-child relationships. We provide practical resources that you can use for teaching in a wide variety of settings.
Such a good child will provide parents with happiness, peace and security for the rest of their lives. As your own children observe your good childing behavior, you become a role model for them, and they learn from you everyday. This is a life-long practice from infancy until your parents pass away, your remembrance of your parents, and your children grow up. As your children grow, they treat you in the same way that you treat your parents.
We work to ensure the future we all envision for our parents and ourselves.
MEANING OF GOOD CHILDING
(Like good parenting but the other way around :))
We created a purposed meaning for the word "Childing".
Childing means "being a good child to parents." Like parenting, it means "being good parents to children."
Good Childing means "the virtue of being good to parents". It has the same meaning with "honor your parents" and "filial piety".
Good Chiding = Filial Piety = Honor Your Parents
In English, “parenting” or “child rearing” means "the raising of a child by its parent." But it seems no exact word for a role reversal “the caring of a parent by its child” or “parent caring”.
The word "childing" is given here with this purposed meaning.
By Wikipedia, parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively for a biological relationship. See "Parenting" in Wikipedia.
Accordingly, childing or parent caring is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a parent from parenthood to death. Childing refers to the intricacies of caring parents and not exclusively for a biological relationship.
Parenting and Childing are the two way street. Parent-child relationship is reciprocal.
Our logo is a Chinese character 孝 in a circle surrounded by two roots. The roots represent our parents. This Chinese character 孝 is translated popularly but not completely correct as "filial piety" in English, its Chinese Pinyin: Xiào spelling sounds like the "show" in "shower".
How to Pronounce Xiao correctly in Chinese Pronunciation?
Xiao means "filial piety" — being good to parents, a fundamental virtue and ethics, supposedly, universal and timeless virtue in human beings. This Chinese character was carved in oracle bones more than 3300 years ago.
The western term filial piety was originally derived from studies of Western societies, based on Mediterranean cultures. However, filial piety among the ancient Romans, for example, was largely different from the Chinese in its logic and enactment. Filial piety is illustrated by the Chinese character xiao (孝). The character is a combination of the character lao (old) above the character zi (son), that is, an elder being carried by a son. This indicates that the older generation should be supported by the younger generation. In Korean Confucianism, the character 孝 is pronounced hyo (효). In Vietnamese, the character 孝 is written in the Vietnamese alphabet as hiếu. In Japanese, the term is generally rendered in spoken and written language as 親孝行, oyakōkō, adding the characters for parent and conduct to the Chinese character to make the word more specific.
In Hebrew, two separate terms to refer to filial behavior: the word kabed (דבֵּכּ ַ), which corresponds to the English word “honor”, and the word tirau (תִּירָ אוּ. root: ירא), which corresponds to the English “fear” or “revere". The fifth commandment "Honor your father and your mother" is a comparable virtue with filial piety.
Our family trees are unique. It is upside down with the family trees you could find online! Below are six special traits in our family tree art:
1. Natural Tree Structure
If you think of a tree in nature, you must have roots at the bottom, then you have the trunk, and then that trunk eventually branches off into main branches which in turn branch into smaller branches. And that splitting process keeps going on and on until you reach the leaves.
We design your family tree the same way with the natural tree structure. Older generations at the bottom as roots and trunk, younger generations on the top as branches and twigs. Younger generations are above older generations. You would hardly find any family tree online that emphasizes the real structure of the tree and displays parents, grandparents and ancestors actually on the roots. The family trees you can find online would be upside down with ours.
Below are the unique diagrams for our family trees.
3. Educational Purpose
Our family trees are educational tools. Through diagraming the relationships of our family members and relatives, to identify our roots of our life force, and to inspire each person in the tree to take care of parents, to make our life tree flourishing.
Good Childing trees are neither for medical history purpose and health record tracing back DNA purpose, nor to find ancestors and family history stories. We focus on taking actions to reconnect to our parents and our living family members, in order to be grounded to our roots.
Imagine a tree in nature. When a tree’s roots are damaged, critical functions of the tree’s system are disrupted. As such, it can exhibit a variety of visual symptoms to indicate that something is wrong. Symptoms of damage to your tree roots include:
Leaf wilting & dropping
Twig and branch dieback
When this happens, you must give your tree a thorough soaking, especially if the season has been dry, so its roots can better take up nutrients from the soil.
MAKE SURE THE TREE GETS ENOUGH WATER. AERATE THE ROOTS. APPLY ORGANIC MATERIAL, INCLUDING MULCH OR COMPOST. PROVIDE THE TREE WITH SUPPORT.
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR TREE’S HEALTH
Now, imagine your family tree in real life. When your parent-child relationship is estranged, as the child, you are disconnected with your life root, and as the parent, critical functions of the family system are disrupted. As such, it too can exhibit a variety of visual symptoms to indicate that something is wrong in your family tree. Symptoms of dysfunctional family include:
Self-centered children, who are takers from parents
A one-way street family, where parents are always the giver
Unhappy in life
The breakdown of supportive relationships among family members
Intergenerational relationships missing
When this happens, you must give your family tree roots—your parents and older generations—a thorough soaking by lighting them up, showering them with caring and loving heart, especially when you are an adult, so your family roots can better take up your loving energy.
MAKE SURE YOUR PARENTS ARE WARM IN WINTER, COOL IN SUMMER; ENOUGH MONEY TO USE; ARE FED WELL; WAKE UP WITH A SMILE; SLEEP WELL; ARE FILLED WITH PEACE OF MIND AND JOY.
When you do this, you are grounded and reconnected to your family roots, your family problems would be gone, and your family tree would be flourishing!
4. Uniquely extended
The extended family tree includes aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews and their spouses. You can’t find any tree online that does the same thing with our family trees.
5. In your language
These trees can be designed in any language. Just submit your family names in your local words. We can copy and paste these names to work on them.
No family trees are same! Because each family is different, and has a different amount of children. Our family trees are fully customizable to fit each family. The tree is rebuilt each time. It would not be exactly the same with the sample displayed. Each tree in Good Childing is custom-made with an extra work, which is different with ancestor trees. Each ancestor always has two parents, so ancestor trees are always in the same format reproducible.
2. Natural tree shape
When we think about our environment, most natural objects and creations around us are not absolutely symmetrical. Like the trees in nature are asymmetrical, every family tree in Good Childing is in natural tree shape.
Founded by a team of filial children and children-in-law, Grandma Liu Nainai is 97 years old in 2022. She was born in China and lives in the USA. She has two filial children: a son and a daughter. She has been living with her son and his family, and later her daughter and her family for decades since her husband passed away. She is happy and healthy.
She likes sitting in a public park under sunshine as her daily routine. She sees Americans walking dogs, picking up after dogs, giving attention and emotion to dogs, spending time, energy and money for dogs everyday. Hardly she sees Americans walking together with elders in the park.
She sees Chinese do the same things to their parents first. Why these American people pay much attention to dogs more than their parents? She confused. She is told that many American people love dogs love cats more than love their parents, and American aging parents are cared for by paid caregivers provided by insurance companies, not by their adult children.
She feels sad about this perversion. Leaving parents alone but having time and money taking care of dogs! Are dogs higher priority than parents?
Confucius says in Xiao Jing (The Classic of Filial Piety):
"Whoever does not love parents but loves neighbors is against human nature; whoever disrespects parents but respects neighbors is against human relationship order."
She receives the peace of mind and joy from her children, children-in-law and grandchildren while her aging. She can rely on them for anything. It is a blessing and a grace from heaven.
People who ever met her admire her healthy and happy life. They often ask her what she did to have raised such filial children.
To answer this question, she started the GoodChilding.com website. It teaches parents on how to raise filial children and teaches adult children on how to fill parents with peace of mind and joy. It brings family lifelong security.